New york sex and dating
Yep, I’ve just been to the Big Apple – setting of new film How To Be Single, starring Rebel Wilson and Dakota Johnson – for a whirlwind three days to find out how they date across the pond. First up on my crash course in the singles scene across the pond I meet Sara, 35, a paralegal I’ve been put in touch with through a friend in publishing.
She’s got some amazing rules and the one that sticks with me is to take your chance – or risk losing it.
But if I asked the average Manhattanite which neighborhood to trek to for a string of sweaty, passionate nights with a rotation of new sex partners, would they know well enough to send me to East Harlem? The areas in red are where the highest percentage of the population has boned three or more people in the last year. Think of this as the dirty Time Out guide you never had. By neighborhood: East Harlem (19.6%), Northeast Bronx (13.9%), Washington Heights (13.8%), Flushing (12.4%), Staten Island (12.2%), Bed Stuy/Crown Heights (12.3%), The Rockaways (11.8%), Chelsea/Greenwich Village (11.6%), West Queens (10.3%), Long Island City/Astoria (10.1%), Upper East Side (9.8%), Kingsbridge (9.7%), Williamsburg/Bushwick (9.5%), The South Bronx (9.3%), Union Square/ Lower Manhattan (8.9%), Canarsie (8.3%), Flatbush (7.7%), Coney Island (7.5%), Central Harlem (5.9%), Southwest Queens (5.7%), Downtown Brooklyn/Heights/Slope (5.6%), Upper West Side (5.5%), Bronx Park (5.2%), Jamaica (4.9%), Bay Ridge (4.15), Forest Hills (3.9%), Littleneck (2.7%), East New York (2.4%), Pelham (1.8%).
Using data from the 2012 NYC Community Health Survey, we created this handy map of NYC neighborhoods that enjoy a healthy dose of promiscuity. Find your neighborhood and discover how frisky your neighbors are.
I went and queued up at the Whitney (whitney.org) on a freezing Friday evening and found that, while some singles were mooching around, many were there on first dates. New Yorkers use Meet Up, a social networking app that’s more about finding something to do that interests you than going to an event aimed purely at singles.
The biggest red flag in the dating world is poor treatment of servers. There are a lot of options in NYC and many approach this by dating more than one person at the same time.It’s not easy to run into someone you thought you were ready to get serious with when he's out on a date with someone else. Your boss decides you’re the person who should speak at that event/greet the overseas visitors/go on the pull in New York. Sara is training in yoga but does find plenty of time for dates too.Meanwhile, Tinder Thursdays at whisky bar Rochelle’s (rochellesnyc.com) is where you’ll get a free shot if you turn up with your Tinder match.If I asked a New Yorker where I could get the best pork soup dumplings, they’d send me to Chinatown.
If you match with someone on an app, meet them as soon as you can.