Stress and dating
Kashdan and Roberts (2006) conducted research on the tendency to feel both anxiety and curiosity in social interactions.
Dating becomes stressful when we let it activate our insecurity.
This is But I realized that identifying the problem is only half the battle.
You invest mental energy in making sure things go a certain way. I have been guilty of stressing over past relationships. Things started out fun and light, I got excited about the possibilities…and then became scared that my imagined future wouldn’t come to be…and then panic set in.
The ups and downs in this cycle can make you feel like you are unbalanced and have whiplash.
While it can be fun to go on a bunch of dates with different people, it can also make you feel like you’re floating alone on your own little island of solitude.
Dating is an opportunity to connect with other people. Think of it as a time you can put your "to do" list aside and take a break.